Here are a few videos about IFS and Compassionate Mediation®

with my deepest gratitude to Dr. Richard Schwartz

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There is nothing like Compassionate Mediation. Learn why!

It's more than marriage counseling, more than divorce mediation - but a hybrid of both.

It combines emotional and spiritual healing along with legal and financial information and support.

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IFS in Compassionate Mediation

My gratitude to Dr. Richard Schwartz for his transformational process of Internal Family Systems.

It has been a core foundation of my personal and professional life.

IFS helps us access our highest and best SELF to heal and transform all of our relationships.

IFS has influenced my life's work: to share compassionate communication, SELF-leadership, and a new form of conflict resolution that helps bring more empathy to the world.

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Thanks Dick and IFS

This 17-minute video with Dr. Richard Schwartz, Founder of Internal Family Systems therapy – my mentor, teacher and friend is a great overview of IFS.

Everything I have done professionally and personally for the last 35 years has been profoundly influenced by his model, his teachings, and his generous sharing of SELF and Parts.

Read more here: https://lindakroll.com/thanks-dick-and-ifs/



Answers to Some Questions

Compassionate Mediation incorporates IFS therapy, higher consciousness, and other modalities to help an individual or couple to talk about their options.

Many times people don't know what their options are.

They come in to see me, they're unhappy, but they don't know if they want to stay or go. They've thought about leaving, but a separation sounds scary. They've thought about a divorce, they don't know what to do next. They don't want to go talk to a lawyer because it makes it too real.

Using the principles of IFS, I also offer information and the framework for delivering that information that makes you an expert in a newly evolving field of Compassionate Mediation®.

Quote and Compassionate Mediation

Thich Nhat Hanh once said “To reconcile conflicting parties, we must have the ability to understand the suffering of both sides. If we take sides, it is impossible to do the work of reconciliation, and humans want to take sides. That is why the situation gets worse and worse. Are there people who are still available to both sides? They need not do much.

They need only do one thing, go to one side and tell all about the suffering endured by the other side and go to the other side until all about the suffering endured by this side.

That is our chance for peace.  That can change the situation.”

And that is what we do with Compassionate Mediation.

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What Linda's Clients Have Said

“I've experienced significant improvements in my relationships with my husband and children.”

“When you’re stuck or unhappy in your closest relationships, it’s easy to lose faith in yourself and in life. Linda helped me to regain that trust. Even though my family was unwilling to participate in the process, Linda taught me new ways to approach old patterns.  

I’ve experienced significant improvements in my relationship with my husband and children. I was enduring a contentious marriage and now both of us have reached a place of reconciliation. For me, this is the key: Linda guides you to re-frame your story with compassion for yourself AND all your significant relationships, even the most difficult and hurtful. Thank you with all my heart, Linda!"

“Linda is helping us build an entirely new marriage." 

"My husband and I have been married for 22 years. We have been in a couples' group and in couples therapy for a lot of that time to try to help us fight less and enjoy each other more but none of that was working. I discovered Linda when I was seriously considering leaving the marriage. I had resisted leaving for years with two young kids and limited finances, the idea of leaving felt almost as bad as it felt sometimes staying.  

In our first session with Linda she shifted the focus away from our tit for tat arguments and defensiveness to a focus on each of our "Selves." Our "Self" she explained, is the essence or core of who each of us is without the hurts of our past, the defensive strategies we've developed to protect ourselves . . . our fears, worries, etc. All that stuff covers up our shining, beautiful, peaceful Self.  

By the end of that first session, we were able to strip away some of the old resentments and junk to have a glimpse of the person we fell in love with all those years ago. After a few short months, we are no longer thinking of ending our marriage. Linda is helping us build an entirely new marriage. I truly feel I was lead to Linda. She is a God send and is helping me to love myself, love my husband and love my life. What a treasure."

“Linda guided us mindfully through the impact of divorce." 

My (former) husband and I owned a business together and worked together every day. We wanted to dissolve our marriage but not lose our company in the process. Linda helped us sort out the dysfunctional parts of the relationship from the parts of our relationship that still worked and we wanted to retain, allowing us to continue to work together, successfully, for years. She helped us separate from each other in a mutually respectable way so that I could move past my anger and disappointment in the failed relationship.  

She also helped us stay focused on what was really important: our 3 year old child, making him the center of most of our decisions, asking ourselves what was best for him as we wrote our joint parenting agreement. When our son attended a group for kids of divorced parents at his school, they thought he was fantasizing when he told the counselor his parents worked together every day. Not only was Linda able to guide and advice us mindfully through the psychological and physical impact of divorce, but also the legal aspects, helping us as she wrote our divorce decree to suit our needs.

“I learned there could be a Compassionate Divorce." 

“I imagine that working with me and my spouse was quite challenging as we both brought a lot with us while dealing with intense life issues. Once the difficult decisions were further along, there was space to let concepts into my mind and heart of empathy and compassion. Linda always seemed to maintain an ability to stay above the fray, and she taught me how to come from my Highest Self. I feel that I understood the meaning of Highest Self immediately, yet before being introduced to that concept by Linda, I don’t think I operated from that place often enough. I am now am working toward living my best life, from my Highest Self, looking for good things for myself, my newly structured family, and for the greater good in my business and personal life. My former wife and my daughter and I have all traveled together with friendship and harmony.

What Other Experts Say about Linda

“Divorce brings out the worst in us and often leaves lasting scars... 

Linda Kroll is a master at lifting couples out of their narrow protective perspectives. They then learn the larger lessons from their relationships and proceed based on the best interests of all involved... This is relationship healing at its best.” 

— Richard Schwartz, PhD, Founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS) (Selfleadership.org)  

"Linda's wise and heartfelt guidance inspires you to bring your loving Inner Wise SELF to your relationship to co-create new joyful solutions — for yourself and with your partner."

— SARK & Dr. John Waddell (PlanetSARK.com)  

"Linda has a brilliant understanding of emotions, conscious communication, and the steps needed to get from stuck to celebration. By following Linda's guidance, you will be soothed, healed, and empowered to improve your life."  

— Davidji (davidji.com)